When Love Hurts - Surviving a Breakup

You have argued and Cried and screamed and yelled and tried to change your partner and then the day finally arrives when you have had enough.

It is time to get your life back and say good bye and hello to your self esteem.

If this sounds like something you have experienced or may be experiencing right now be assured in time you will feel better.

You will smile again, laugh again, sing again, dance again and even love again.

Yes it is painful right now and nobody understands what you are feeling, you may be conflicted with the love you have shared verses the pain you have experienced and for this reason many hold on and don't let go continuing to endure the pain hoping for a better day while all the while loosing more and more of their self worth and self esteem.

You are hurt and angry and sad and perhaps even lonely maybe alone for the first time ever.

Resist the temptation to Badmouth your ex and continuing to go back and forth into Pain no matter who you think is to blame. Dwelling on this ultimately creates prolonged pain.

It is time to heal and be loving toward yourself.

Take a moment to Imagine yourself now in a different light the best you, the most amazing you, what do you look like, where are you and what are you doing ...

If you can have the courage to say NO to a relationship that wasn't working you can also have the courage to change other areas of your life too.

Focus on the feelings that arise when you are looking at your Best self, speak words of love and encouragement to yourself all the time.

It is a good idea to remind yourself of these feelings throughout the day create a few flash cards with healing and comforting words on them such as :

I am love

I am healing my soul right now

I have the courage to move forward

I admire the bravery in myself

I have the best intention toward myself and others

you may already have some in mind right now ..

It is not going to get any better if you moap around in your bathrobe for a week or even longer you have decided to take decisive action in your life to create a life that is harmonious, appealing and satisfying to you.

Dare to continue on ......

Go to the store and buy yourself a journal this will become your "What I want now" journal and will serve as a reminder as to where you are going from this day forward.

It is good to have a time of reflection, a time where you can be honest and non judgemental toward yourself or to others and begin the healing process.

It is important to soothe your soul that may feel conflicted and yearning for familiar agony because you are missing the relationship you have just ended.

Keep that pain in the past ... That yearning is an illusion, a simple result of you programming yourself to believe it was good, so you were able to ride out the pain within yourself in other words it is a habit..

Take a warm bubble bath treat yourself to something calming soothing and fragrant to put in your bath and light some candles and begin the process of loving you and believing in the life you were destined to live.

Reflect on the things you have learnt about yourself in this experience, note in your journal the ways in which you love to behave and note the ways in which you no longer wish to behave.

Make a note of being prepared for Warning signs when they show up, possible signs that alert you to a feeling of discomfort in some way. Decide from now on to support and trust your own intuition.

Make a plan to work on your own self acceptance, accepting who you are flaws and all and remember you are Perfect even in your own imperfection.

Remind yourself there was good and bad in that experience and there is no need now for blame or anger or sadness. It is just as it is, and appreciate all the finer qualities of your ex in your soul and make peace with it ...... and let it go and move on.

You are love and each day you have another opportunity to love yourself in a new and delightful way. Spend some time outlining new activities you have not dared to try before.

Take a risk and make this your mantra each new day take a risk in all areas of your life and learn what it is to develop your courage and become consistently brave.

Love shows up to people who truly love themselves and are healed of Anger, Resentment and Pain, the flip side of this is that unless you want to release these feelings completely you will not be love or attract lasting love into your life.

Take some Bonding time out to reconnect with the loving, appreciative person you are becoming do things that delight you and always make time for yourself.

Become excited about spending time with you ... Set up quality dates with wonderful you.

Keep your mind active and at times you sense you are repeating thoughts that cause you pain STOP immediately and choose love ... love of yourself, loving behavior , self love.

Give yourself a project which will keep your mind active and enhance and develop your new direction perhaps Salsa Dancing, Art, Cooking or Rollerblading you decide what you would like to do be adventurous and take a risk.

Have the courage to make the changes you need to make such as an individual bank account, address changes and so on do it Now !

Remember finally you are amazing and perfectly made in every which way you are beautiful inside and out and you know intuitively what is best for yourself allow your heart and mind to catch up with each other and connect through meditation and hypnosis.

You are Love.

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