Leveraging Fear

Have you even taken the Long way home because you are afraid of the Shortcut ?

When I first learnt to Drive I was petrified to go on the Freeway, so much so that I would always take the long way home.

I would drive all of the surface streets in Rush hour Traffic and then become frustrated with how long it took me to sit at all the lights and dodge all the other cars madly dashing Home at the same time.

It didn't occur to me to change my route, I felt that this was the best route for me, so much so that I had convinced my self it was the only safe alternative.

And the Payoff for me was, me getting home in one piece outweighed the inconvenience of the Journey.

I mention this to you because it occurred to me today that many of us have irrational secret habits and behavior because sometimes "The Payoff" makes perfect sense to us.

So much so that The Payoff can out Prioritize our own Value's !

For example some Abused Women may decide to stay with their partners because the Payoff is the nice things he does ... sometimes even after the Beating !

When you are focussed on "The Payoff'" it is not really likely that you are in any way interested in remedying the irrational behavior.

Like my example of being so Fearful that I chose a route that took me 4 times as long to get home and some might say even increased my risk.

Well another question might be what was I really afraid of.

I have found that once one is afraid of a thing they can go to extreme lengths to avoid it and to an observer it doesn't even make sense.

Being fearful is a part of life we all have Fear about something in fact many professional Boxers say they feel fearful before a big match.

Who else could be fearful do you think ?

Actors

Musicians

Artists

Performers

Just to name a few, the difference is they have used the adrenaline surge that goes hand in hand with fear and Leveraged themselves into a powerful position using that same Fear !

What would you do if you could overcome your Fear, if you could Leverage it and use it for your own Power ?

Just some food for thought I wonder if you would be at your same job, House, Town, Country, Partner, Life etc...

Have a ponder on it, just for you.

You may also be interested in this article which provides an NLP Technique to change a habit or behavior you are sick enough of that you want to break free of it.

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