Thinking of Calling your Ex... Read This First !

Surviving a break up is Heartbreaking we can all Agree.

If you have recently broken up with somebody you love from time to time you may be tempted to contact your Ex.

You may have a legitimate reason for calling them for example:

• You haven't heard from them in a day or two and to make sure they are ok.
• You just have one thing to tell them that they didn't know before, and will change everything.
• You just want them to know you Miss them.
• You have news and you want to share it with them.
• You are worried they are with somebody else and you just want to see what they are up to.
• You want to apologize.
• You want to Beg them to reconsider the breakup.
• Somebody has asked you on a date and you want to make them jealous, or you are not sure if you should go in case you are getting back together.
• You may be thinking that your Ex will call you back and holding on to the hope that they didn't really mean for the breakup to be permanent, you may feel by contacting them you are helping them and getting the ball rolling .

Whatever the reason is, it is important to remind yourself that this relationship no longer exists as you know it.

Whereas in the past you would have sent a cute Text, Email, or Phone call this Habit is no longer appropriate.

And Even if you ex said to you "let's stay friends" .... (and really meant it) chances are, a period of separation and reflection will help you both redefine your New friendship.

The pain of a Breakup can feel as if your heart is crushed and will never re-mend, remind yourself this pain is temporary although certainly feels as if will be forever.

The moment of Healing cannot and will not improve if you do not change the way you are thinking and ultimately your behavior.

It may be really easy not to call during the day because you are busy, you may be more tempted to call in the evening when you feel the full on Impact of being alone.

Find something to keep your mind focussed on in advance, Just in Case you feel this nagging temptation.

With all that being said you still want to make the Call Read this First.

Top 10 Things to consider before giving in to Temptation and making the Call.

1. Never Ever Ever Call your Ex if you have been drinking.
2. Your Relationship is Broken there were real reasons for the breakup.
3. You could not live with him/her before, what now has changed.
4. You May leave a" I cant live without you" message you regret.
5. Your Ex may have already moved on and be with somebody else
6. Is this the best thing to do for your life.
7. If you were watching yourself as an observer would you approve of your actions
8. Consider the advice you might give a friend in a similar situation.
9. Wouldn't you like your Ex to see you at your best.
10. If you do call them, there is no need for them to change or try to Woo you into getting back with them.

Remember to work on yourself and your Self Esteem, Keep great people around you who will be Kind and supportive.

An appropriate time of mourning is great, and make sure you are motivated to move forward before too long.

Stop replaying old arguments and Nasty words that he/she said to you. Changes are you said some words you know regret too.

Do not waste time sitting in the house waiting for the phone to ring and checking your Text messages continually.

If they want to work things out they will let you know and persist until they have let you know.

Take the opportunity to work on your own strengths and Weaknesses and make your own adjustments as necessary.

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