How to get it right every time - Cookie Strategy

Have you ever tried to make a cookie and with all your best intentions the Batter  merged into one massive pile of "Uck" on the baking sheet, or the bottom was Black and the top was too soft if so read on...

There are 5 Steps to making a perfect Cookie and if you are not a regular cookie maker you may just think if I follow the recipe it will all work out.

As in life there are other external factors that could alter your end result.

Step 1.
You should begin with quality Ingredients - make sure your Sugar is not clumped your Flour is fresh your eggs are the best available and all your ingredients have the High standard that you would expect to taste at your end result.

Step 2.
It is important to be delicate with the flour - if the flour is not handled with respect the air factor will not create the light and fluffy cookies you are hoping for. Over handling can make for hard flat and even lumpy cookies, Trust that you have done all you need too with care and confidence.


Step 3.
Are your measurements accurate - sometimes when rushing, you may have a pinch too little of this and heavy handed with that remember what you put in is what you will get out.
Take your time and be careful with substitutions to make sure they are appropriate to this particular cookie.

Step 4.
Sometimes the slightest difference makes all the difference - did you know if you chill your cookie dough before baking your cookies will have a chance to set well.
There are often tiny overlooked details which separate mediocrity from excellence.

Step 5.
Now that your cookies have come out of the oven nicely and you have achieved your goal, it is important to protect and preserve your Investment with proven tools that work.
You will need to first let your cookies cool completely, then store them in an airtight container so nothing can get in and nothing can leak out, in this case even air makes a difference.

How will you get the same results next time ?
Do what is proven to work

In NLP we call this a strategy

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Your Relationships at The Holidays

The Holidays can be a wonderful Time of year where you get to spend time with Family and Loved ones, eat Drink and be Merry together and get caught up on what is going on in each others lives.

If you are a New Couple it can be a time for you to prepare your own Dinner party perhaps for the first time, or visit your partners family and your own together.

It can also be one of the most stressful times of the year when suddenly the pressure seems to be on and the Differences in your relationship are really beginning to make a difference and not in a good way.

Consider if you will people of various backgrounds sharing a holiday that may seem so important and the strain of getting it just right with somebody who has completely different traditions and to boot completely different Values that are now rapidly rising to the surface.

Habits and Personality Traits of your partner may have appeared to be insignificant in the past and you were prepared to overlook things that mildly irritated you.

Unfortunately "The Holidays" often represent an "anchor" of types to each of us maybe even reminding us of happy times of fulfillment in our childhood which we are expecting to recreate add all the preparation and company we may have invited and at this heightened state of awareness it can easily go downhill from there.

Consider your expectations for the Holidays - Ask your self if they are realistic and change your viewpoint by looking outside of yourself and ask:

What is my reason for insisting on ____
Why did I become angry when ______
What was my real intention _______
What feeling was I intending to create ?

If your partner is behaving in a way that is not pleasing to you, remember they also have their own reasons for doing so.

It can also be helpful to look at the two of you from an objective point of view and understand both sides of the argument.


Remember we cannot change anything about other people and yet we can communicate with them in Love when we take ourselves out of the problem.

While looking at the problem from the inside we really can only see our own reasons for feeling this way. The more we think about it and talk to others the more reasons we can find to justify our behavior and insist it is not our fault.


Notice when your own language sounds like this:

I was up all night cooking and ___
I do understand But ___
I was just trying to
I don't see why ____ got upset because
He/she wouldn't even ___
They didn't do anything to help ___
I planned the whole thing, I don't see why ___
You /He/She Always _____

If you pay attention, you will notice that each of these examples while you may enjoy being right are all subjective. They are designed to showcase and focus on your point of view only.

Doing the exercise we discussed a bit earlier, change your perception by disengaging as yourself and becoming an innocent bystander.

Were there any words or actions you were not particularly proud of, and would not like repeated in front of say your Boss or somebody you really want to think highly of you ?

Begin to go through the list of questions for each participants, you can do it as if you are watching  a movie on a cinema screen.


If you find yourself getting angry you can make it into slides thats are black and while and still pictures and begin to examine the story Frame by Frame.

Give it ago, your intention is to be able to gain a clear objective point of view which is win win for both sides.

Finally Ask yourself:

What are the characteristics of my partner I really enjoy
Notice at least one nice thing they did or said to you during the holidays
Understand we are not our behavior
Realize your partners intentions behind their behavior

For further Communication clarification Try this Link about an Neuro Linguistic Programming Technique called the Agreement Frame Link provided Below.

 http://www.nlpisfun.com/2009/10/nlp-technique-agreement-frame.html
At the end of the day remember the holidays are fun, even if there were great lessons learned this time around.

Bt Xmas you will  be ready to be on more reasonable terms or you may just decide to get together after you both have spent time with your own family and friends.

The person with the most flexible behavior always wins!

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Dick Sutphen President of ABNLP "Soul Contracts" Exclusive

Some Time ago I had the opportunity to Spend some time with American Board of Hypnotherapy President Dick Sutphen.

I was privileged enough to be able to interview him and ask him about Hypnosis, Hypnotherapy and his thoughts on 2012 and many other interesting subjects.

Here is the Interview

Dick is a Past Life Regression & Hypnotherapy expert and amongst many other prestigious Titles is an authority on Soul Contracts, Soul Mates and Relationships.


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He later did a Live Training that I was granted permission to videotape (forgive the angles at times ... I was after all Hypnotized :) I have made it available on You Tube for all to View.

This is a full Training cut into 7 Clips each under 10 minutes and it is such an exclusive Training which covers so much information about attracting your Soulmate I wanted to share it with you today.

It includes a Full Deep Hypnosis session and should really be enjoyed at your leisure as it is just a delight to watch and learn from Dick Sutphen and his easy style.

BTW if anyone knows Oprah or her people get him on her show ... you will know what I mean when you have watched it :)) enjoy


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Are you Turning Your Booty Call into your Partner

While some may enjoy a Booty Call (see Definition) from Wikipedia here for various reasons.

This person may very well meet your needs late at night in your Bedroom introducing them to your family as your new Partner may not go down so well.

If we consider a Booty call is a Person who meets one of your most Primal needs you may realize the selection process for such a person are also quite Primal.

A Relationship focused on Sex, Lust and sexual satisfaction is not necessarily going to meet your other personal needs.

For example how much time have you spent in the past out of the bedroom getting to know each other.

Do you enjoy the same types of entertainment, are your Career goals complimentary to each other and Do your values match.

Is this person a serial Booty Caller and if so are there other people servicing or being serviced by your new partner.

Have you been to your Booty Call's home do you know their family and why for goodness sake didn't you date in the beginning instead of the other way around.

Sometimes you may know the Booty Call very well, as the Booty Caller is your ex or a friend of a Friend. In this case you may have long ago decided that the Booty Caller was not an adequate Partner for you although enjoyable for late night Sex.

What are your real reasons for considering turning the Booty Caller into your New Boyfriend/Girlfriend Now.

Take a moment to consider if you are creating a fantasy out of the illusion that the sex is good and so the relationship will be.

With a Booty Call you may just get to be yourself no airs and graces, perhaps no real reason to impress each other because who cares anyway.

While quenching your lusty thirst these things have been overlooked and perhaps justified with your words "never mind it's just a Booty Call".

Now you will have a chance to explore your differences under the microscope of dating or worse than that Living together.

May I remind you that in the beginning you were thought to be Booty Call material and not Girlfriend/Boyfriend Material.

I would ask you again to consider what has now changed and where you fall on this persons list of priorities, in fact where do they fall on your own list.

Is it a case of clutching at straws because there are no real Men /Women left and "better the devil you know" ?

If the answer is likely consider your own self belief and how much you really value yourself.

It doesn't hurt from time to time to revise your choices and perhaps even raise the bar.

If you don't believe you deserve something great, then no one else will either.

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Leveraging Fear

Have you even taken the Long way home because you are afraid of the Shortcut ?

When I first learnt to Drive I was petrified to go on the Freeway, so much so that I would always take the long way home.

I would drive all of the surface streets in Rush hour Traffic and then become frustrated with how long it took me to sit at all the lights and dodge all the other cars madly dashing Home at the same time.

It didn't occur to me to change my route, I felt that this was the best route for me, so much so that I had convinced my self it was the only safe alternative.

And the Payoff for me was, me getting home in one piece outweighed the inconvenience of the Journey.

I mention this to you because it occurred to me today that many of us have irrational secret habits and behavior because sometimes "The Payoff" makes perfect sense to us.

So much so that The Payoff can out Prioritize our own Value's !

For example some Abused Women may decide to stay with their partners because the Payoff is the nice things he does ... sometimes even after the Beating !

When you are focussed on "The Payoff'" it is not really likely that you are in any way interested in remedying the irrational behavior.

Like my example of being so Fearful that I chose a route that took me 4 times as long to get home and some might say even increased my risk.

Well another question might be what was I really afraid of.

I have found that once one is afraid of a thing they can go to extreme lengths to avoid it and to an observer it doesn't even make sense.

Being fearful is a part of life we all have Fear about something in fact many professional Boxers say they feel fearful before a big match.

Who else could be fearful do you think ?

Actors

Musicians

Artists

Performers

Just to name a few, the difference is they have used the adrenaline surge that goes hand in hand with fear and Leveraged themselves into a powerful position using that same Fear !

What would you do if you could overcome your Fear, if you could Leverage it and use it for your own Power ?

Just some food for thought I wonder if you would be at your same job, House, Town, Country, Partner, Life etc...

Have a ponder on it, just for you.

You may also be interested in this article which provides an NLP Technique to change a habit or behavior you are sick enough of that you want to break free of it.

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Thinking of Calling your Ex... Read This First !

Surviving a break up is Heartbreaking we can all Agree.

If you have recently broken up with somebody you love from time to time you may be tempted to contact your Ex.

You may have a legitimate reason for calling them for example:

• You haven't heard from them in a day or two and to make sure they are ok.
• You just have one thing to tell them that they didn't know before, and will change everything.
• You just want them to know you Miss them.
• You have news and you want to share it with them.
• You are worried they are with somebody else and you just want to see what they are up to.
• You want to apologize.
• You want to Beg them to reconsider the breakup.
• Somebody has asked you on a date and you want to make them jealous, or you are not sure if you should go in case you are getting back together.
• You may be thinking that your Ex will call you back and holding on to the hope that they didn't really mean for the breakup to be permanent, you may feel by contacting them you are helping them and getting the ball rolling .

Whatever the reason is, it is important to remind yourself that this relationship no longer exists as you know it.

Whereas in the past you would have sent a cute Text, Email, or Phone call this Habit is no longer appropriate.

And Even if you ex said to you "let's stay friends" .... (and really meant it) chances are, a period of separation and reflection will help you both redefine your New friendship.

The pain of a Breakup can feel as if your heart is crushed and will never re-mend, remind yourself this pain is temporary although certainly feels as if will be forever.

The moment of Healing cannot and will not improve if you do not change the way you are thinking and ultimately your behavior.

It may be really easy not to call during the day because you are busy, you may be more tempted to call in the evening when you feel the full on Impact of being alone.

Find something to keep your mind focussed on in advance, Just in Case you feel this nagging temptation.

With all that being said you still want to make the Call Read this First.

Top 10 Things to consider before giving in to Temptation and making the Call.

1. Never Ever Ever Call your Ex if you have been drinking.
2. Your Relationship is Broken there were real reasons for the breakup.
3. You could not live with him/her before, what now has changed.
4. You May leave a" I cant live without you" message you regret.
5. Your Ex may have already moved on and be with somebody else
6. Is this the best thing to do for your life.
7. If you were watching yourself as an observer would you approve of your actions
8. Consider the advice you might give a friend in a similar situation.
9. Wouldn't you like your Ex to see you at your best.
10. If you do call them, there is no need for them to change or try to Woo you into getting back with them.

Remember to work on yourself and your Self Esteem, Keep great people around you who will be Kind and supportive.

An appropriate time of mourning is great, and make sure you are motivated to move forward before too long.

Stop replaying old arguments and Nasty words that he/she said to you. Changes are you said some words you know regret too.

Do not waste time sitting in the house waiting for the phone to ring and checking your Text messages continually.

If they want to work things out they will let you know and persist until they have let you know.

Take the opportunity to work on your own strengths and Weaknesses and make your own adjustments as necessary.

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