One Step at a Time

Have you ever felt Angry and helpless at somebody else's behaviour and reactions ?
If your answer is yes read on:

There are situations when you may believe another persons behaviour to be so unbearable that you cannot stand to be around them.

Do they just push your buttons, Undermine you and in general make you angry.
Perhaps it is another situation all together perhaps they make you sad and worried, Hurt your feelings or something else.

The thing I would like to share with you today is that even though it may feel as if you are alone and powerless to the situation you are not.

Here is what you can do.
You can always and I mean ALWAYS change the way you react to the interaction.
Why not consider doing this instead.

The next time you feel yourself getting uncomfortable and worse with a persons behaviour toward you, the first thing to do is remain calm.

No body has the power to make you sad, mad, hurt unless you allow their words to do that to you.
If you begin to get upset before they even open their mouth because you are expecting a nasty response from them, consider the value of this interaction and maybe relationship.

Decide what your own intentions are, ask yourself if they are even realistic.
Things may have changed and you may not have noticed, perhaps the relationship could benefit from a review of pros and cons.

If you are in a relationship where it is usual to argue or exchange nasty words with another person, then decide why you believe this is a valuable relationship in your life.

Why do you participate ?

Do you believe they are to blame and you are proving your innocence ?
Consider and evaluate your real intentions and be honest with yourself.

It may be that the relationship has out served its usefulness...
If you do still find value in your relationship the best way to change anything is like Michael Jackson said.

Look at the Man in the Mirror and make that change.
Begin changing how you feel about yourself, change your reactions and refuse to be a target.

In time you too can learn to take control of your own emotions, begin with your own thoughts.
Begin to replace negative thoughts that change your emotions, with Happy thoughts about times gone by that you have great memories of.

Consider how you may create more of these.
This is your life, begin to live it on your own terms.